Thursday, 11 July 2013

Week 13 & 14: Feeling better in the skin that I'm in

So Independence Day (aka July 4th) completely threw me off and it's like I went into a blogging black hole. It felt like Saturday. It was not.

This means this post covers week 13 and 14. I'm starting to feel more like myself. I'm not 100% there but I feel sleeker and healthier.

I think I may have lost 1/2 a pound but maybe not. I'm still hovering at the same weight this past 3-4 weeks. I'm not exercising everyday - maybe that's why. 3 months in and I still haven't found my rhythm. I think I just have to start and make myself do it for 30 days until the habit is set.

The not drinking part



I feel great not drinking. It's fantastic. And my friends are awesome and don't care if I drink or not. I'll still go out and dance and have a great time, there's just no booze in me.

A friend of a friend asked me to come out on Saturday night for another friend's birthday. I was early, got myself a tonic and waited for him. He kinda shook his head at my instance of no alcohol.

Later when we were on a rooftop overlooking all of New York, he grabbed me a seltzer and a drink for us to share. He was disappointed and claimed it wasn't fair. He'd get drunk and look stupid and I'd be sober. I shrugged. I'm ok with that but he obviously wasn't.

I said good night well before the party was over (I still witnessed a bar top dancing serenade, flaming sparklers, unlimited bottle service and met a lovely midget doorman in a top hat) and took the excruciating 90 minute ride home on the NYC subway after midnight. He offered to drive me but 9 drinks in? I'm not getting into any car with someone who's spent the night drinking whiskeys (or anything else).

I realize that I wasn't as straight forward off the bat as I should have been. I said - oh I'm training tomorrow so I can't and was all bashful like 'I would if I could kinda thing.' I should have said 'I stopped drinking 3 months ago so I could get healthy again so I'm not drinking now but thank you for the offer.'

As long as I'm clear with my intentions, that's all I can do really. Its just how sone people are but the good ones aren't. I guess this is an easy way to see who I should hang out with.
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  1. jdcarter11 July 2013 at 07:45

    First off, ya look great. Congrats. All your hard work's paying off.

    Second: To drink or not to drink - It's funny. When I stopped drinking almost 11 years ago, I got similar reactions from people. People become very self conscious when you're in a bar and not drinking. Defensive, even, sometimes. I eventually got use to it and realized it's not my problem if they feel weird. It's my choice (for whatever reason - and that's the thing, people often presume I don't drink because I'm an alcoholic and not because it might be my personal lifestyle choice), and they can suck it.

    In the end, like you, I have tons of fun without booze, and I've even had people marvel at parties that I'm not drunk (because I'm having so much fun sober).

    Stick to it, and enjoy what you're getting out of it. Rock on, sister.

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  2. jdcarter11 July 2013 at 07:46

    RT @heatherAtaylor: Week 13 & 14: Feeling better in the skin that I'm in...and the whole no drinking thing http://t.co/Z77WxDlYm3

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  3. twitter_afhill26211 July 2013 at 07:56

    There's just something about having an 'excuse' for healthy behaviors. When I was doing a 90 day "Total Body Transformation" program that involved healthy eating and no alcohol 6 of 7 days a week, I constantly leaned on that to justify being healthy!

    "Oh, I'd love some greasy nachos and beer for dinner, but I can't. The darn program, you know"
    For me, it was easier to blame the program than say 'no, your choice is less healthy than what I want to do. I reject your way of eating/drinking/having fun/living'.

    You kinda have to wonder when people try to force you to imbibe with them. Why DO they care?

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  8. Heather Taylor11 July 2013 at 09:30

    I think that's it. It makes it feel easier to do some how. Oh - I'm training for a marathon or it's lent or...or...or...

    I don't know why people care so much. I think it's their insecurities. I used to not drink when I first moved to the UK and I had a friend raz me all the time. Then years later when she was getting healthy and cut out drinking, she apologized to me. It's definitely their thing and not mine...

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  9. Heather Taylor11 July 2013 at 09:32

    Thanks James! I'm super outgoing and love to dance so I don't need to have a drink to talk to a stranger or shake my hips. And cutting it out is helping me immensely and now I have no excuse not to run. I can't be too hungover if I don't drink! Curses... :)

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